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How often did you eat fish together?

Why did you think it was a wise choice?

Do you know her?

What do you plan to do to improve?

I forgot to mention that we're in a LDR

You’re not a disappointment; but she is. She sounds like a lousy GF.

We don't eat together because we're in a LDR

It was not a wise choice. But deep down I know that she doesn't want fish or maybe something else. And I forgot about it and I thought it was fish.

I do know her. I spent months trying to read her mind. Memorize all the hints that her body and words are giving when she's frustrated. And I was hurt that one simple mistake, she said that I don't even know her

Do I need to improve? I know for myself that I make mistakes. But every mistake I make, I always remember it and make it a lesson.

She may have negative qualities but I always try to understand where she is coming from. It's safe to say that I'm the understanding one between us

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Manipulative people search out understanding, kind people like you. Be cautious.

How much IRL time do you spend together?

None. We haven't even met yet.

Thank you for the advice. I keep my head just in case

We always video call

And that's it

A very important detail that makes this entire argument pointless.

Ow, I'm sorry for that. I just wanted to be heard. That's all

Why do you want to date someone you fight over nonsense?

Is being single really harder than a pretend relationship?

Not at all!

We can’t know everything about our partner in the first year, and while we will start to get to know our partners so we’ll over time - we will always have more to learn about each other. You never stop learning about your loved ones.

It’s also human to forget some things.

My friend forgot that her own mother is a Vegetarian and has been for a very very very long time. Her mom laughed about it.

Your girlfriend is being very insecure, and is blaming you for this when it’s something only she has control over and can change.

You sound caring and are doing a great job trying to help her feel special. She is not able to handle a simple mistake and could use some therapy or more experience in relationships.

I’m sorry this has happened. It sounds like she isn’t mature enough yet, and it’s not your fault.

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If she said you are a disappointment to her, then you should accept that she is telling the truth about how she feels about you.

This does not mean you are a Disappointment to yourself or to anyone else. It is not a global pronouncement about you to everyone else in your life.

Look. If you made an incorrect statement like, "I know you do not like fish," then you made a mistake. It's annoying and arrogant for you to say you know her likes and dislikes when you've never met her in real life and haven't known her for long.

It should not be a big deal if you say you are sorry.

If she keeps dragging it up, over and over, then that's very irritating and unnecessary.

She’s being emotionally abusive and manipulative. Don’t play into this. Assure her you definitely WILL make mistakes and it takes a lifetime to learn everything there is to know about another person. I’m sure she doesn’t know everything there is to know about you and she doesn’t even think that matters. The only thing that matters to her is that you worship her and make her your only reason to exist. I have been married 18 years and we are still learning each other.

Maybe it’s cause I’m autistic and have ADHD, but when someone tells me something about them i that’s seems important like their favorite color or food , or seven something I notice I try to make a note of it . Usually in the notes sections of their page of my phone contacts