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AnalystOk5065 t1_jefxoi3 wrote

Reply to comment by Double_Rip_441 in Struggling dating someone with BPD [M18] [F18] by Double_Rip_441

That's a major difference with my situation and yours. My wife desperately loves me and really doesn't want our marriage to end. I don't think we would have made it this far if she sometimes said she wanted out. Best of luck bro. You've got the best years of your life in front of you, so make the best of them.

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Double_Rip_441 OP t1_jefydpy wrote

Thanks, and I think the difference has to do with other aspects of her personality too. She's scared of conflict at all and doesn't like talking about her feelings in any way, so when she has an off day she immediately tries to find a way out since she'd rather not handle it at that moment

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AnalystOk5065 t1_jefyn38 wrote

Oh yeah, way different. My wife is going to tell me why she's pissed off and also tell me about everyone else who pissed her off during the day. 😆

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Double_Rip_441 OP t1_jeg04f6 wrote

Lucky man 😭 I'd be so much happier in ur situation cuz I don't mind the mood swings, the thing that gets to me is going back and forth on wanting to be with me

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AnalystOk5065 t1_jeg0cyc wrote

Yeah that sucks bro. Well honestly, they both suck, but yours probably sucks more. At least you've got an easy "out" if you decide to go that route.

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Double_Rip_441 OP t1_jeg1q83 wrote

I don't want an easy out tho bro, I want an easy in. We fell inove with a burning passion and our relationship is so great it shouldn't have to suffer these doubts she has on her days off..

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AnalystOk5065 t1_jeg27qb wrote

I know, but years down the road if you get worn down you'll have an easy out. For now maybe just try to get her in couples counseling or just take it day by day.

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