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cinnamongirl73 t1_jegaz7g wrote

I’m really confused by this. I don’t understand if you have the same layout as the first apartment, wouldn’t it be the go-to, to keep the same layout? Something had to trigger you. Is it just because you’re seeing how he decided where everything went before you were around? Is that it?

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sweetsunshine559 OP t1_jegh2rb wrote

Well I'm looking at it as shouldn't we decide together not automatically let's just do what he chose. It makes me feel like I'm moving into his place not our place.

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cinnamongirl73 t1_jegij4x wrote

Ahhhhhhhhhh there it is!!! I’ve got a few years on you, so I’m going to say this from experience. Men don’t think like that. They’re thinking hey the old layout worked, let’s just use that! He’s not thinking oh this is a whole new space, it’ll be ours. If the apartment layout was different, you wouldn’t be worrying about this, because he would be asking your opinion.

But because the apartment is the exact same layout, he’s just not thinking along those lines. That’s all. Now, I would suggest you use your voice, and tell him this is our space now, I’d like to talk about the layout. Sometimes men are just….. derp….. they need guidance with this stuff! 😉

Just simply say yeah this layout isn’t working for me, I feel like we both should agree where everything should go. He’ll probably look at you like you have 3 heads, shrug and say ok….. lol

They’re such simple creatures and we are complex, and we think they are the same way, and it’s just not that way! Lol

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