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JMarie113 t1_jegw8ne wrote

It's just a fwb, not a relationship. Sounds like you are expecting too much.

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CephalopodSpy t1_jegwj39 wrote

I mean, unless you two specifically discussed expectations for your fwb situation and that included texting a certain amount, I don't really think he's necessarily doing anything wrong. It sounds like you're wanting him to put in the same effort that he would in a committed relationship.

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yowen2000 t1_jegwx46 wrote

He is just your fwb, there is no reason he should text you every day.

If that's something you want, maybe you like him as more than an FWB?

Or if you don't, it's JUST as important to set expectations in a FWB situation as it is in a relationship. Maybe if you guys talk about it you can find a compromise. But generally, texting every day/constantly is not standard in a FWB situation.

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Winter-Travel5749 t1_jegwxr6 wrote

Isn’t that kind of all you’d expect from a FWB? It’s not a BF/GF relationship. And if he gets preoccupied with someone he may want a relationship with wouldn’t communication with them take priority? One might ask “what do you get out of this?” If it’s not fulfilling you then you can address it because you deserve to be happy.

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pizzaroll94 t1_jegx4fp wrote

If you want a relationship cut him off and date around

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NGC6753 t1_jegxhno wrote

I may well misunderstand the FWB thing, so please correct me if I'm wrong. You can him a Friend With Benefits however you are expecting him to behave like a boyfriend. Which one is it?

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TemperatureLarge7275 t1_jegyrhy wrote

He owes you nothing, he’s a fwb. You’re 27, why are you wasting your time on situations like this? You haven’t seen each other in 2 months, he doesn’t care. Be honest with yourself and the person you’re sleeping with if you have relationship expectations.

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Foolish5678 t1_jeh01nz wrote

So you haven’t seen him in a few months to hookup

Could it be that he is hooking up with other chicks while keeping you on the back burner ?

Maybe he’s just giving you the minimum to keep you along for the ride till a spot opens up

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mochimangoo t1_jeh0ufy wrote

He’s your fwb, not your boyfriend. He simply wants to sleep with you and nothing more than that. It seems you’ve caught some feelings for this guy, which is why it’s a bad idea to do fwb if you catch feelings easily

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ImpossibleAd176 t1_jeh18zl wrote

Replying to Foolish5678 (#2,558,590)

Yes that is exactly what I think is happening. I confronted him about it and told him to just leave me alone already. He proceeded to apologize for not replying to me and told me he's been busy working. & he wont leave my life once and for all. what do i even do about this

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