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ThrowRA987654321779 OP t1_jeekv5g wrote

Reply to comment by ionlyreadtitle in My (27F) best friend (28F) and I are seeing the same guy (45M) how do I deal with the situation? by ThrowRA987654321779

We’re just seeing each other but he tells me that he’s blocked so many girls that tried approaching him because he’s with me! Unfortunately I can’t show her a picture of him because she’s already shown me a picture of him and told me his name and age.. she’s been more open about it than me. And I stupidly acted stupid.. because I was SO SHOCKED! I didn’t know what to say or do… I was thinking of sending her a message saying hey blah blah blah but then when she confronts him he’ll ask how this person got HER number knowing they’ve only hung out in her apartment and no one knows about their situationship. It’s so messy… lord

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ionlyreadtitle t1_jeelrrc wrote

Straight up tell her.

Hey you know your fuck buddy? Yes. Here's a pic of my "boyfriend". Yes, he's the same guy. He's been lying to both of us.

Or are you trying to get out of this where everyone is completely happy?

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ThrowRA987654321779 OP t1_jeemt0v wrote

My ideal situation would be for her to sense or see for herself taht he’s engaging with another woman and for her to just leave him… but I don’t know how to make her see that!!! Whenever she’s with him I try to blow up his phone for her to see that he’s texting a different girl but he hides his phone

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ionlyreadtitle t1_jeensd5 wrote

So you still want to be with him after this?

They are not together. So him taking to others doesn't matter.

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ThrowRA987654321779 OP t1_jeeo60y wrote

I have feelings for him.. and it would kill me to leave him and then my best friend who is also my sister to have him and not being able to say shit!!!

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ionlyreadtitle t1_jeeoqhi wrote

He lies to you. He's probably lying about a lot more. And you know he's cool with cheating.

And when you stay with him. Well, you never have him meet your best friend ever? Do you think once she breaks it off with him that she will just forget what he looks like when she hangs out with you and him?

Do you really think your best friend would stay with a guy who lied to you and her and cheated on you with her?

With friends like that, you don't need enemies.

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ThrowRA987654321779 OP t1_jeexi63 wrote

I confronted him just now and he said I don’t need a gf that goes nuts and jealous just because I’m friendly with a girl. And he blocked me. I didn’t tell him that girl is my friend .. I just said I found out…… yeah….

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IdeaEven2648 t1_jeey8et wrote

wow, his version of friendly is fucking? i wonder if you did that with a man, would he still consider it friendly? he'll be back soon and make you beg for his presence in your life, don't do it. feelings < respect, loyalty and avoiding the risk of std's.

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Ad-for-you-17 t1_jeewzog wrote

This makes no sense… she’s your friend, you have the information, just meet her for a cup of coffee, sit her down and tell her in person. “Look this really sucks but I found something out…” -shows her all pics and texts”

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