my (21f) boyfriend (25m) thinks i’m cheating on him

Submitted by li_bby t3_1281ujp in relationship_advice

This is nothing new. He constantly makes up these conspiracies in his head about me cheating. This time he thinks i’m cheating on him with our neighbor. I’ve never even talked to our neighbor, don’t even know his name. I’ve never cheated on him. I’ve been in 3 serious relationships throughout my life and have never cheated on anyone period. He on the other hand has cheated on every girlfriend he’s had. Ironically he cheated on me about 5 months ago and I ended up forgiving him due to me being pregnant and saying he was going to work to build the trust back for our baby. He just brought this cheating conspiracy up again and said with the most serious face and tone, “You know if you cheated on me I would literally kill you. And I know I would get away with it.” I didn’t know what to say. I can’t believe he said that to me so suddenly and seriously. Idk what to do. I just need an outside perspective and advice. I love him but he honestly scares me. I’m not cheating on him and never would but the fact he cheated on me and had the nerve to tell me he would kill me? Idk what to do. Thank you for reading any advice is greatly appreciated

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the-mirrors-truth t1_jegthue wrote

He's cheating and projecting.

Anyways, cheating is the least of your problems. Him threatening you is a huge alarm and cause to leave.

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yowen2000 t1_jegtrmn wrote

He is projecting, or he is being manipulative, either way he is a big tall red flag if this is practically always a problem, not only that, he has cheated on you and he has LITERALLY threatened to kill you.

You are in a dangerous situation, he is already verbally abusive, it's not a stretch to think it could turn physical, my advice is to leave him, in a hurry. Can you go stay with your parents?

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tickleyourfanny t1_jegu0uw wrote

Ehh, whats a little cheating and death threats. From what I can tell thats pretty much standard in this sub..What do you want advice on, cuz virtually everyone is going to say leave him. which you will just ignore..Go to a real sub or source for abusive relationships cuz you are in one right now and wont believe it. Speak to a licensed professional, someone you can actual trust, and get their opinion on how to get out.

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