Am I [M41] neglecting my wife [F20]?

Submitted by ElHermano56 t3_127l545 in relationship_advice

My wife and I have been married for two years. She often complains that I’m a workaholic and that I spend too much time working. To prove her wrong and set her mind at ease I booked the weekend off work and took her to the country. We had a good weekend but she absolutely flew off the handle at me for checking my work emails on the morning we had arranged to leave. We were in the lobby and we were waiting on the receptionist to check us out so I had a quick look at my work emails to see what had gone on.

We sat in the car in total silence on the way home and I just dropped her off at my mum’s (F67) house. I stayed there and commuted to and from work from there. A week later my wife called up and asked when I would be home. It sounded like she was asking matter of factly. No apology from her to ease into the conversation.

I checked my work emails once. Frankly I left my phone in my room for almost the entire trip. What did I do wrong and how can I get her to apologise and move on?

TL;DR: Wife said I spent too much time working. I booked us a weekend getaway and checked my work emails once at the end of the trip. She got mad at me

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Ok-Prune-3952 t1_jeek5z1 wrote

I’m not sure what you expect. You married a child. Expect childish behavior.

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UsuallyWrite2 t1_jeektlv wrote

So a year ago, per your post history, you were 25 and dating a 25 YO and worrying about Caitlyn Jenner and asking people if they’d rather be a Reddit mod or have sex with a woman .

So I call troll bullshit.

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Now_Villager t1_jeeniva wrote

It sounds like this was the final straw for her. I think what she's asking you to do is be fully present when you're with her.

If you met her when she was maybe 17, it makes me wonder if it was arranged, a love match or something else. In any relationship, but especially one with a large age gap, it's really important to understand each other's expectations and be clear on how you're going to compromise.

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