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[deleted] OP t1_jeesk6o wrote

Reply to comment by UsuallyWrite2 in My boyfriend (21M) and I (19F) have different love languages and I think it’s starting to wear me out. by [deleted]

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UsuallyWrite2 t1_jeetyd7 wrote

You’ve gotta use your words babe. You have to ask for what you want. Very few people have psychic abilities. But most people will adjust their behavior for someone they love if they know precisely what is expected.

He sounds like a sweetheart and I’m sure if he knows what you want he will try.

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[deleted] OP t1_jeeugor wrote

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UsuallyWrite2 t1_jeevii7 wrote

Yeah. Sounds like he’s burning the candle at both ends and just konks out when he has a moment to rest.

I am not a particularly romantic or emotional person. I’m an engineer. That might be a reason, it’s not an excuse. But seriously, I just don’t think about some of these things. I love my partner very much and he’s a wonderful human. But like when he called this morning? My first thought was “oh no, something is wrong!” Because in my mind, why would he call if there wasn’t a problem or he forgot some gear I need to bring up tomorrow. LOL I’m more of a functional/efficient communicator where I reach out when I need something, not “just because”.

People are people-y. We are all different. In a healthy relationship though, we ask for what we want and we get to give what our partner needs. We are all works in progress!

Good luck!

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