I (30F) messaged my ex (32M) and told him I feel like he is taking me for granted.. I sent it last night and even called him once. He just read my message, does silence means yes applies? Until when should I wait for his reply?

Submitted by Trulyanon99 t3_127303s in relationship_advice

For context, me 30F and my ex 31M are talking and wanting to see each other again. Then when I asked what are we now, and he cant answer me. I asked him what is holding him back to being official again. He said he cant answer for now. I asked him if he even want a relationship and he said yes. But he cant answer as to why he wouldnt want to make it official again. I told him i feel like youre just taking me for granted... because he cant even answer my question. Its been 10 hrs since I asked that... is his silence means yes?

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CrankyOldStrayan t1_jece4bg wrote

Sounds like he has doubts. The relationship failed for a reason, he might be struggling with whatever it was. The two of you need to have a serious and honest conversation to both clear the air and see if it's worth another shot. I'm not surprised he hasn't responded, though. Accusations like that will only serve to push him away more.

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Trulyanon99 OP t1_jecf1yw wrote

But if your intentions are clean… wouldnt it be easy to say it otherwise?

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CrankyOldStrayan t1_jecfcrn wrote

When feeling attacked, some people will just retreat. Likely he just doesn't know what the relationship is at this point and perhaps doesn't know how to respond.

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young_coastie t1_jed2owl wrote

He’s just spineless. He can’t tell you what he really wants because he knows that it will cause friction.

Sorry. But this is the truth.

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giag27 t1_jeck8fn wrote

Umm, take the hint, move on.

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UnquantifiableLife t1_jecu8v6 wrote

I had to double check your ages because this sounds like high school nonsense. Why are you waiting for him to decide your life? My god woman, get some self respect!

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Lilkiska2 t1_jed8jqg wrote

Oh my god, stop trying to force this relationship to work. You should be with someone who is all in and WANTS to be in a relationship l

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LengthinessFresh4897 t1_jedadvh wrote

What was the cause of the breakup? Because depending on what it is he wants to make sure those issues were resolved first

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