Submitted by Jorjaislove t3_127mg23 in relationship_advice
I (23M) I'm starting to get anxious about the fact that my gf (21F) is constantly dreaming and overthinking about me cheating on her. At first I thought it was something normal maybe in past relationships she had that issue that could've developed an insecurity but at this point I'm not sure if I should be getting worried.
I also overthink a lot and I'm very open about it with my partner even if I have never thought about the idea of my gf cheating on me. It's been more than 6 times she has told me, gotten mad at me because she thought or dreamt about the idea of me being with another woman. I've never done anything to give her that idea and I'm always trying to make her feel safe about that. But I've asked in the past if this thing was an issue if there was something bothering her or if I'm doing anything that could be originating these ideas to what she replied that even if I'm not doing anything she doesn't know why those ideas pop into her head. Even today she told me she woke up shaking because she had a dream that "hurt a lot" about me kissing another woman in front of her. I'm trying to me supportive and always reassure that non of that is happening and that I lover her but I'm starting to overthink myself why this idea is constantly popping into her head I mean if cheating ain't on your mind you wouldn't think about it right?
What else could I say to try and get her rid of these ideas and reassure that this aint happening? should I be worried about the fact that this is something that happens frequently?
Reasonable_Major1678 t1_jeeqtjw wrote
Did she cheat on you, and now she is afraid you will ?