Submitted by MoonchildEm96 t3_1280kw1 in relationship_advice
I’ve been seeing a guy for around 2 months now.
With hindsight; I made a mistake on our first day of meeting each other, which was having sex within hours. Usually I never jump in to bed with a guy that fast. Since then the pattern has continued, in that we’re having sex every time he comes down to see me. There doesn’t seem to be a lot to us beyond that. We still haven’t even gone on a date yet.
With other circumstances in the mix, I have already mentioned to him that I wanted to take a step back and slow down.
I told him last night that next time he’s down, I’ll be due on my period (to be polite, he said there’s other ways we could do stuff). So I said no, and that I wanted to take the opportunity to go on a date instead. See how he can comfort and take care of me during it; lazy day with snacks and cuddles are my thoughts - to which he said that was unfair.
Personally I consider that to be a red flag response from him. So my question stands; is it unfair or bad, to withhold sex in exchange for wanting actual dates with him; 2 months in to seeing each other?
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