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Do I need to state the obvious? He doesn't value you enough, and takes you for granted.

Without proper respect for each other, and placing each other before your families relationship has no future. Well it has no future that isn't toxic.

He should defend you to his mother, express he is upset, and her behaviour is awful, and openly malicious.

Alternatively, if he really wants to ve able to stay where he is, the very least he should do is to admit to you how terrible his mother is.

If you want this relationship to survive you need to explain it to him, but he is likely to deflect.

Honestly what you really need is to move out of there, if he wants to be with, he needs to follow you in this. If you need sone time that us fine, pretend everything is fine, while already working to find other place to live.

He doesn’t understand why I’m upset, he said “she just wants to look out for me, she saw weird behavior and wanted to make sure nothing is going on” like that’s just harmless???? Like questioning my integrity isn’t going to make me feel some type of way?

Well you know you can't stay with him, and in this place in general. It won't get better, so you need a way out.

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Move out with or without your boyfriend.

Move out.