Is there something wrong with me (23f) boyfriend (23m)

Submitted by throwRaPurse t3_127wi6o in relationship_advice

My boyfriend have been together on and off for the last 4 years. In 2020 things felt distant and I felt like I wasn’t putting effort in the relationship. I went on his Insta and he had messaged a girl saying he had a dream that she destroyed him with her big str*p on. I was very wowed by this.

So we have moved past that, but the last few months has been treating me like trash. He never touches me, initiates sex not even kiss me. I have to like beg for his attention or intercourse. He does works 12 hour shifts I get he may be tired but When I tell him how I feel he said he does enough and there’s not enough time in a day to please me. It makes me feel like I’m alone. I feel like there is something wrong with me like he’s not attracted to me.

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NightOwlEye t1_jeg4x6z wrote

You have to beg for attention? It's time to move on. If you were a priority, he'd make you feel that.

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MckittenMan t1_jegcr83 wrote

This:

>It makes me feel like I’m alone.

Is a result of:

>he last few months has been treating me like trash. He never touches me, initiates sex not even kiss me. I have to like beg for his attention or intercourse.

Not because of anything wrong with you.

He is not giving you his end of the relationship.

When someone checks out, its time for you to check out.

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KrKrKr004 t1_jeg5hxx wrote

The only thing that I see 'wrong' here is that you're still in a relationship with him. You've been on and off for four years. Relationships should be joyful parts of your life. Why are you continuing to waste time and energy on someone who doesn't seem to care about you?

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HHIOTF t1_jeg82ec wrote

There is nothing wrong with you, you are just not with the right person. He isn't your person.

Your person is still out there trying to find you.

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