why do i (28f) feel like i can’t break up with my (35m) boyfriend even though i am FED up?

Submitted by Neat-Lawfulness9586 t3_127whdv in relationship_advice

has anyone ever felt the same way? and if you got out of it how did you finally do it? like i am so SICK of him not making time for me and i am sick of arguing about it. everything is dead. we haven’t been intimate since august. there is no love or romance anymore. he is just too busy with his kid and all the other nonsense chaos he creates in his life. yet i still can’t just break up with him. i just can NEVER say the words. why. i feel like i’m in mental shackles. :( it sounds so dumb but the words never come out.

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WildlyUninteresting t1_jeg4gw0 wrote

Why do you fear leaving?

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Neat-Lawfulness9586 OP t1_jeg6itw wrote

i guess i know if i leave then he is gone from my life forever (my choice ofc) and that makes me sad cause we have a good time together and we are so similar. and i enjoy his company. i just hate how things have been and he won’t make time for me and it’s not fair. but obviously his actions are telling me he doesn’t care about this relationship and i’m not important even if his words say the opposite.

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Noetherville t1_jeg7hsl wrote

How much time can you afford to waste on a dead end?

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Neat-Lawfulness9586 OP t1_jegihco wrote

you’re right…. why am i wasting my own time. not wasting his cause he clearly doesn’t care 😒

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HHIOTF t1_jeg8aez wrote

It isn't really that hard. You can write a letter if you don't know how to vocalize it. Just rip that bandaid off and you'll feel light and free!

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Neat-Lawfulness9586 OP t1_jegijxu wrote

😭😭😭 i’ve written so many unsent letters 🫠 but i so need to rip the bandaid

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HHIOTF t1_jegmkj9 wrote

You will feel so much better once you do it. You are prolonging your misery right now.

You got this. Be strong or pretend to be strong. That works, too.

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