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dekebasswood t1_jee2p5i wrote

OP? you do owe her an explanation. She probably has no idea what the hell is going on. Please tell her very briefly by the coffee pot or the water cooler or in her office? That you regret your behavior, and that you would like to discuss it further. Take her out to lunch. Somewhere casual. And tell her about your significant other. Apologize profusely for your behavior. Because it was stupid. And you know it. And then see if you guys can start over.

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fishmakegoodpets t1_jee3kiu wrote

An explanation and laying out clear boundaries (just work friends and nothing more) is very good idea.

Also, it might be a good idea to tell your partner if you haven’t already. The truth has a funny way of coming out, and it’s better if it comes from you.

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AshEliseB t1_jee43fb wrote

Are you going to tell your partner you cheated?

Also, you do need to have a chat with this woman, an honest discussion. She deserves to know where she stands.

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someone_you_kno t1_jee8b4f wrote

Replying to dekebasswood (#2,522,461)

If my bf kissed a work colleague and then took her to lunch a week later no matter the circumstance that would look extremely suspicious he should have a brief conversation about boundaries and explain he’s in a relationship and then tell his girlfriend because she deserves to know

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