Submitted by kokopotate t3_127zxr0 in relationship_advice
I (24F) went to a different city to visit my sister. There, I met a guy (23) on bumble. This happened around a week ago. Since the day we started talking, this guy wanted to meet up. I am more of the thought that I'd like to know someone a little better, at least for a few days before I even think about meeting. Anyway, upon his insistence, we met up. Then, he came all the way to where I was living (2.5 hours by public transport) to meet up again, although I wasn't very enthusiastic about it. Noticed a few things about the guy that I didn't really like. Went to eat a cafe, ordered boba milk tea, and he said to the waitress "there's no tea in this" in a confrontational tone and made the atmosphere very uncomfortable. Anyway, it's my birthday a couple of days after that, and he's mad and upset that we can't meet and also upset that I don't seem upset by it. I tell him it's my birthday and I'm happy about the occasion. He apologizes. Then we talk about the relationship and ultimately he says that he has problems with distance and would rather that both people stay in the same city. I said well then we should part ways, it doesn't seem like it'll work out for us. He insists that we shouldn't and he's fine with distance. I come back to my city a few days back and I feel relieved to have some distance between us. Conversations are going okay. Today he says "cuddle me" to which I reply "I won't even touch you u.u" as a joke. He replies back in a joking manner too. After 5-6 hours, he says that he doesn't like that the conversation is always either banter or memes and stuff. He wants some real conversation too. Which is not true, we get to know each other too through questions. He says that he doesn't know how to deal with the way I talk and he didn't find the "I won't touch you" thing funny. I say okay, you could've said that earlier instead of playing along and giving mixed signals.
Anyway, I want to leave this dynamic because this guy is just too much all at once and it's not working well. Please give advice as to how I can get away without him insisting that we keep trying and what not. It's just been a week, why is it already so serious?
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