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TeaLover315 t1_jefvhq9 wrote

Maybe you should break up due to incompatibility

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ChickieD t1_jefz5pw wrote

Yes, he’s probably lying to you.

You’re not making it ‘safe’ to tell you the truth because when he does, you’ll be angry.

This is a boundary you’ve set, he knows and agreed to the boundary.

What will you do if you’re 100% sure he’s been looking at porn?

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ThrowRAidcidc t1_jeg0yi5 wrote

How can I make it safe for him to be honest with me? I told him that I’d rather hear an honest answer than continue being lied to. I won’t get overly mad. Yes, it will make me upset (I feel like it would make anyone upset really) but I won’t freak out. I told him that he can either admit the truth and then we can see what to do next (either go to therapy and work on his addiction together ** if HE genuinely wants to stop **,) if he doesn’t want to stop or he isn’t capable to do so for whatever reason I told him it’s better to admit it now and just end things because it’s not going to work out that way. i told him I’m not going to tolerate lies - so if he’s lying to me now and not admitting it, and eventually there’s going to be similar episode and the truth will uncover somehow I’m not going to give him any more chances. I’m willing to forgive him now and see if he wants to fix the issue, but if he will do it either way behind my back it’s definitely not going to work

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pl487 t1_jeggzpz wrote

Yeah, he's clearly still doing it. But you're going to have a hard time finding a guy who doesn't do it. You can find plenty who will keep it hidden from you and lie about it when caught, though.

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