My friend is dating my ex, how do I stop thinking about it and what should I do? We've been dating for a year. M18 F18

Submitted by MoraDK_ t3_127xyco in relationship_advice

In January, before my birthday, I ended my relationship with my ex-girlfriend. Everything was going great, but I was having emotional breakdowns every day. I would start the day with fantastic mood, but by mid or end of the day, my mood would change and I would start feeling sad. Sometimes, it would even get to the point where I would cry. I decided that it was all because of my girlfriend and made the decision to end the relationship. The first couple of days were better, but it quickly went down to zero, and after a month, I realized that I was still in love with her. I reached out to her, and we talked. I apologized, and she told me that I hurt her badly, and she doesn't want anything to do with me anymore. I apologized again and tried to forget about her, but every day, as long as I kept it all inside, I felt worse, and during this time, I found out that she was dating my friend. I thought that I wouldn't be able to make it through that day, but I didn't even have the strength to get up. I lay there all day, feeling pain in my heart, thinking and saying that I'm a fool. I tried many ways to forget about her, but every day, as soon as I felt sad, I thought about her and buried myself even more. I tried to distract myself with sports. As soon as I felt sad, I went out onto the street or did something at home, but it didn't help. I love her very much, and she loved me before (it was she who suggested that we start dating), but according to her, she buried her feelings for me. I would like to bury my feelings for her because feeling sad and having pain in my heart every day is very unpleasant. It's so oppressive that thoughts of suicide appear (why do I need this world? I don't want to live; life is nothing but pain. Everyone will be indifferent to me when I die). I know that I did very wrong, but after we ended everything, she didn't write me any messages. Please help. What should I do? I really want to turn everything back, but she doesn't need it anymore, and the feeling of pain doesn't go away. I can't forget everything either.

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Dirty_Questions69 t1_jegcs14 wrote

He’s not a very good friend if he’s dating your ex.

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MoraDK_ OP t1_jege9bp wrote

I know that when we were friends, he was seeing three girls at the same time, and when they wanted a real relationship, he would disappear. Also, I found out from another friend of mine that he had been wanting to start a relationship with my girlfriend for a long time, but I was a barrier for him.

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LongjumpingAgency245 t1_jegl87l wrote

Distance?

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MoraDK_ OP t1_jegmg9j wrote

What do you mean?

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LongjumpingAgency245 t1_jegmodu wrote

Put some distance between you and them.

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MoraDK_ OP t1_jego34o wrote

Unfortunately, it's not possible. I've already blocked them on all social media platforms, but we're in the same study group and we have to see each other quite often.

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