His reaction is abusive behavior and he did it in front of your kids. Is this typical? He just dumps you on the side of the road and kicks you out of the house whenever he’s challenged?

I think it’s absolute bullshit to share PW/access to phones. It’s a security issue (id literally be fired if I gave someone access to my phone and thus my work email). It’s also a breach of privacy for anyone else you talk to who thinks the messages are between themselves and one other person.

To me, people who insist on having access to their partner’s phones are insecure and controlling.

But kick someone out of a vehicle for asking? That’s crazy town.