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> And what I found was just disgusting to me.

I'm sorry to ask, but what was he liking? Scantily clad women?

Almost naked anime girls

Liking pictures on social media & watching porn are not cheating. They might be a dealbreaker for you but forcing this “boundary” on your SO does not make it reasonable. You can’t police someone into submission, all you end up doing is causing resentment & secretive behaviour. Either date someone who has the same rigid rules or accept that this is not a realistic or healthy way to interact with your partner.

Honestly, he's disrespected you. As much as you want to forgive him and move on, its always going to be in the back of your head. Your perception of him has already been altered and he's continuing to push your boundaries.

A person can only take so much so the fact that you reacted the way you did can only tell yourself that you've had enough.

Find the strength within yourself to just leave and move on, its for your own best interest tbh.

Narcissists only get upset at you because they get caught up in their own actions, you've done everything right. Always trust your gut!

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He has told me that if I were to do the same he would consider it cheating as well. So what do I take from that?

Both need to stop going through each other's phones.

Why are you engaged to someone you can't trust?

As I said that was the first time I actually looked without him knowing, I still have almost no clue how to navigate his phone. The only other time he told me to look through it “because I couldn’t find anything”. He just does it because well I honestly have no idea why he does, but I just had a gut feeling to. I regret it already but I needed to know for some reason.

That he is a hypocrite and a guy. These things can be both true. Good luck finding someone that doesn't look, the next guy will just be hiding it better.