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I will never understand how people like that manage to get married. The disrespect. Just wow. Don't excuse his behaviour as 'oh it's just a habit'. No. He's a grown man. He can take responsibility for his actions, he just doesn't want to stop. Because he's a pig.

I would say talk to him but you already have. Telling him it makes you feel insecure or something along those lines. Sometimes, the best thing to do is exactly what he does. Look at other men. Even if you have no interest until he notices and brings it up to you. Make it obvious and tell him you feel the same when he does it to you.

Otherwise, DUMP HIS ASS! You deserve better. When he makes it obvious that he’s staring at other women, then gaslights you into thinking YOU are crazy?! It’s absolutely not okay. Sounds like he needs a taste of his own medicine.

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"Eye raping"- Umm, he's just looking at people. Straight guys are naturally attracted to nice bums & boobs. And when a hot guy walks into the room, you probably check him out too!

Being in a relationship doesn't mean that you become blind to the rest of the human race. You sound very insecure and oversensitive about this issue. Is your self-esteem Ok?

I understand. Try what I had previously suggested. Otherwise, maybe couples therapy where you can get those feelings out in a safe space. I’m sorry you’re in that situation. Please try to seek out a trusted friend who will let you crash with them til you can get on your feet should anything happen. I know how these men can be. Manipulative and sometimes abusive when they’re called out for their shit. I want you safe. YOU deserve to be happy! Do what you feel is best and stay safe please. I hope you get this all resolved❤️

Congrats you're married to a heterosexual male.

The only difference between him and the rest of us is he's shit at making it subtle. But we all look.