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luvduvbunny t1_iuirz26 wrote

This is a bit more acceptable (for me at least)

The age gap is inappropriate when it comes to teens and people in their early 20s because of maturity levels, grooming issues, and the potential for financial and/or emotional abuse (power dynamics).

For example, a 30 year old can easily abuse an 18 year old financially and emotionally. The 18 year old is barely an adult and doesn’t have much maturity and adult knowledge.

You’re almost 30 and the other person is in their mid-40s. I think it’s safe to safe youre both at a similar maturity level and there’s not a power dynamic

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Slow_Ad_2828 t1_iuitd0p wrote

Don't power dynamics exist in every single relationship though? Someone is always richer, smarter, physically stronger etc.

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luvduvbunny t1_iuiv33d wrote

At this point in your life (being almost 30), you should be able to properly look out for your best interests. Maturity comes from life experiences, and you have over a decade of experience since becoming an adult.

People in their teens and early 20s are still maturing (will most likely be done at 25-26) and aren’t as stable as someone closer to 30. Your BF isn’t able to control you (as well) as opposed to someone who is 20.

Yes there are couples with unequal income, but that doesn’t mean there’s a power imbalance. You’re not dependent on your BF for everything.

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