Submitted by Usual-Atmosphere-61 t3_yikr4z in relationship_advice
We have been together for a little over 3 years and lived together for 2 years. I currently work 50+ hours a week and hold two jobs. I have been the only one working since we moved in together, she did have a job before that but left due to mental health issues. Since then, she has refused to get a job saying things like "I'm not ready yet" or "I'll try to get one this month". We have discussed this many times over and I'm tired of having to struggle with everything alone.
She also refuses to help clean our apartment saying things like "But i do the laundry" even though she only does it once every 2 weeks. It's the only thing she does. She even refuses to cook too! She will have me order food for dinner almost every day. Even I cook for us occasionally.
Look i get that mental health can be hard to deal with and I am always there to support her when she has her bad days. But she has been taking medication and going to therapy weekly for almost a year now and it's still a conversation we have from time to time.
I am just wondering if i decided to settle down too early. I'm with someone who can't even support me as much as i support them and it's getting harder to deal with every day.
TL; DR: Girlfriends doesn't cook, clean, and cook. I feel like I live alone.
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