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The only way to make amends is for your to show how much you care for him through actions not words.

You have only been dating a few months so I can't recommend anything else but if it goes on longer you might want to do therapy with him if you ever want to marry him.

Yes what you did was very cruel and he might not be able to get over it.

How you speak about an individual when they are not around, is how you truly feel about them. Nobody should stay in a relationship when they are made to feel like a 2nd choice and are simply settling for them.

This I am well aware of but it was months ago that I made these stupid comments and I feel way different now.

The date which the words are said is irrelevant, your bf is probably demoralized and his confidence is shot. How you speak about your bf, especially when he isn't in the same room says alot how you view him and whether you actually respect and as per what you said, you evidently do not.

I would never continue dating someone who spoke about me in such a way, whether or not it was before or after they “fell in love” with me.

You most likely lost a good guy, let this be a lesson to you about how to treat people in your future relationships.