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Shibui50 t1_iujfhlf wrote

Eh...you DO know what a "fetish" is. right? Having a preference for a particular ethnic, religious or cultural group is NOT a fetish, and we would be a pretty staid species if everybody liked the same things and had the same preferences. Despite what the media would lead us to believe there is a lot more going on in what we find attractive, enjoyable and satisfying than just our thoughts and opinions.

I would not even try to guess what feeds your SO preferences but I DO know that you seem to report that there is more discomfort about this issue from your side than from his. Some people casn go their whole lives and never find a compatible partner. Unless there is something identifiably toxic going on, why do you savor the fact that you may have what a lot of people only wish they could have. FWIW.

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r3cklessiguana OP t1_iujgg6e wrote

Silly question, but what would differentiate between a fetish and preference?

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Shibui50 t1_iujhvql wrote

Excellent question. A preference is a tendency and is not causal. A fetish is defined as a form of sexual desire wherein sexual expression (and often times gratification) is inordinately linked to a person, place or thing. Thats not what the OP is describing.

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