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peakpenguins t1_iujyxcr wrote

>However I’ve always fought with the inner darkness (depression, suicide sessions, anxiety, etc.), well just like all of us I guess, but even to think that these demons might break out one day and impact someone else, especially someone I’d love, is devastating.

Sounds like the best thing you can do here is get help for those issues.

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Green_Appeal_5541 OP t1_iujz6w3 wrote

I am actually on therapy, but can’t really treat them fully, only hold back

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peakpenguins t1_iujzmot wrote

Well part of therapy is learning how to deal with these things in a healthy way.

Is the bottom line that you're afraid getting into a relationship will be bad for that person because of these things you feel?

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Green_Appeal_5541 OP t1_iujzvjv wrote

Im afraid that I might negatively impact their life if they get too close to me

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peakpenguins t1_iuk05r2 wrote

Understandable, but you know practically everyone has issues of some sort, right? You're clearly aware of yours and seeking help to handle them, which is all any of us can do. If someone you found to be wonderful in every way told you that they've also dealt with depression, anxiety, suicidal thoughts, etc, how would you feel?

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Green_Appeal_5541 OP t1_iuk19c5 wrote

I see your point, but in my mind, I treat myself and everyone else differently. I mean, there’s practically nothing anyone can say or do to really hurt me. However I recognize that not everyone is like that and coming too close go someone is always like holding a baby for the first time: I’m afraid to unintentionally hurt them.

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peakpenguins t1_iuk1s7a wrote

I think you should continue getting therapy... You don't have to have a relationship if you don't want to, obviously. But if you feel like you want to and it is only fear holding you back, then continue to get help for that. Being aware of what you're afraid of is already the best way to prevent it.

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