Busy-Recording-1911 t1_iuivkos wrote on October 31, 2022 at 5:44 PM

Reply to comment by HollyCat415 in I’m becoming less attracted to my gf. by [deleted]

They have a custody agreement in place that is crystal clear. She allows him to come see the kids whenever he wants. I don’t have much of an issue with that.

He simply acts entitled in her home.

HollyCat415 t1_iuiw17y wrote on October 31, 2022 at 5:47 PM

Right, but that’s not working, which is why I good next step for her would be to change the custody agreement. The open-door policy doesn’t work when one of the parties is behaving like this. A more defined agreement would allow her to say things like “per our custody agreement, you need to do XYZ. If you cannot, I will contact my lawyer”. So she has an additional layer of protection, you know?

Busy-Recording-1911 t1_iuiwg6d wrote on October 31, 2022 at 5:50 PM

Open door policy isn’t in the custody agreement

Fun_Ladder8204 t1_iuiwtmt wrote on October 31, 2022 at 5:52 PM

Run away my friend, you don't need none of this in your life.

HollyCat415 t1_iuixpka wrote on October 31, 2022 at 5:58 PM

Then she needs to be following the custody agreement for her protection. Leniency is earned and he hasn’t earned it.

But again, none of this is your responsibility. You can decide to support her, knowing this is a struggle if hers she needs to work on. Or you can decide this is your deal-breaker and end things. Either is valid, so so what is best for you.