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FatTony394 t1_iuj65ye wrote

This isn't a negotiation. All you have to do is tell him that it is over. He can't overrule your decision. It's over when you say it is.

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Optimal-Magazine61 OP t1_iuj6f57 wrote

I’ve tried that last time and I’m worried he’s not gonna take that as an answer. I have troubles being selfish and doing stuff for myself ( I’m currently in therapy partly for this) he also is currently living in my house and he needs a place to go since his old place is 2 hours away. I’m currently staying with a friend and he decided to show up because I blocked his number

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FatTony394 t1_iujbflq wrote

This is an abusive relationship. Tell him that it's over. That is all. If he won't leave, contact law enforcement and have him removed.

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Optimal-Magazine61 OP t1_iujohym wrote

How do I make him understand that?

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FatTony394 t1_iujos1m wrote

He doesn't need to understand anything

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Optimal-Magazine61 OP t1_iujoy76 wrote

Would it be a bad thing if I texted him instead of talking to his face? I’d give in too easily to his face but I want to be fair

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FatTony394 t1_iujp7x4 wrote

Don't give in. Make your decision that it's over and then proceed accordingly. His protestations don't matter.

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