Update: he’s moving out and I’m talking to him tomorrow just to go through things that are his and what’s mine

I broke up with my bf of 5 years a few days ago because I’m unhappy with being in a relationship anymore. I’m tired of putting everyone else’s needs above my own and if I can’t even be happy with myself, what’s the point of trying to make everyone else happy. I’m mentally unwell and I cannot handle a relationship anymore.

He wants to talk but I want nothing to do with him. I’ve tried breaking up before but he basically said no and made it my problem.

What do I say to him to make him understand I’m done? He doesn’t want me to throw away all of the time we’ve had together but I resent being in a relationship with him so much now. I just want to be alone. I don’t know how to get this across to him.

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FatTony394 t1_iuj65ye wrote on October 31, 2022 at 6:54 PM

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This isn't a negotiation. All you have to do is tell him that it is over. He can't overrule your decision. It's over when you say it is.

Optimal-Magazine61 OP t1_iuj6f57 wrote on October 31, 2022 at 6:56 PM

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I’ve tried that last time and I’m worried he’s not gonna take that as an answer. I have troubles being selfish and doing stuff for myself ( I’m currently in therapy partly for this) he also is currently living in my house and he needs a place to go since his old place is 2 hours away. I’m currently staying with a friend and he decided to show up because I blocked his number