Submitted by maryjanewatsoniii t3_yiphk8 in relationship_advice
M (34) F (28) — both going through divorce
I have thoughts on this. But wondering if anyone has a fresh perspective on this? Everyone thinks their special and their situation is “different”. That’s where my head is. And I know better, but there is something still not letting me walk away… yet.
My gut feeling says: he is not interested in me as I am in him…
HOWEVER, I have heard many men tell many of my friends, and myself the same thing. It can be a reflection of their state of mind and lack of confidence.
TYPICALLY, though unfortunately, it's more sinister than that. And I have a feeling I’m in that situation.
It means that he would not be there to support me. It means that I will spend days, nights, months, years crying over him. It means that my mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual health will decline because of the way he treats me. It means that he may cheating on me with someone else. It means that he will put me in danger, either because of the choices he makes with others, or because of choices he makes on his own.
IF I had a friend who was asking me this question…. I would say: “My experience says: Listen to people when they tell you things about themselves. They mean what they say, and they say what they mean. Believe him. Then walk away…no…run away.”
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