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_20110719 t1_iuivvm0 wrote

Why do you want to preserve the relationship, in spite of the hurtful behaviour?

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[deleted] OP t1_iuiw7bw wrote

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Spaniardman40 t1_iuiwp4h wrote

Then explain it to her, otherwise you'll find yourself in an unhappy relationship filled with resentment.

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_20110719 t1_iuixyq0 wrote

Well, talk about it. Talk about what's going on, how it makes you feel and that you want to work it out for the wellbeing of your relationship. Discuss with patience, respect and importantly, indoor voices.

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komkel t1_iuix29z wrote

At some point you need to stand up for yourself. If she refuses to see your side or anything then it’s a lost cause. It’s manipulative and is a sign of emotional ab***. I was in that situation where it started one day and it just never stopped. Do what’s good for you.

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Critical_Age1687 t1_iuix4k5 wrote

I can't advise you on breaking up because of this, but from my experience, it's not going to get better. I see it in my wife, and even more so, in my sister. In my sister's case, I feel that it's a learned behavior, because my late mother did this too. My BIL and I have had many discussions about this and he's coping, but I have a feeling that someday, my sister is going to push him over the edge.

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DepartureGreedy2365 t1_iuixzma wrote

You’re so young, you can’t force someone to change plus you have you’re whole life ahead of you. Block her and her toxic bum and move on.

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