Is this cheating?

Submitted by hunnie_bee_ t3_yhnyp0 in relationship_advice

So I had a boyfriend for literally a week. Out of the blue, he cancels our plans for the day, and tells me he thinks we took things too fast and wants a “tiny break”. It’s been a week and a half and I haven’t heard a single thing from him. I texted him a few times because I was concerned, and he hasn’t even read my texts. At this point, it feels he might be trying to ghost me (which doesn’t seem in character for him, but I guess I don’t know him very well yet).

Onto the question. Tomorrow is Halloween, and I really don’t want to spend it alone and sad at home. A fwb that I used to have asked me if I was available and I explained the situation to him. I just don’t know if it would be cheating if I met up with him tomorrow (I would most likely sleep with him, but it’s not necessary a given). I don’t have any other friends in the area, but I guess I could try to find other plans.

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powerboy2000 t1_iueroz8 wrote

If you’re on a break and not talking it’s not cheating

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IndigoTrailsToo t1_iuilcrj wrote

It isn't not cheating, they haven't talked about it and what the rules are. So what it is is heartbreak on all ends.

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Magali_Lunel t1_iuero6u wrote

I would consider myself broken up at this point, but I might send a text telling him that before you mess around with the FWB, just to keep your own hands clean.

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Dull-Objective3967 t1_iueu3eq wrote

It he is ghosting you, go have fun for halloween, its is loss not yours.

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Darkrose-12888 t1_iufg3lv wrote

He hasn’t contacted you for a week? I’d consider it over. I wouldn’t get back together with someone that didn’t contact me for a week.

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luvduvbunny t1_iuetc2h wrote

When it comes to breaks, typically y’all decide on how you approach them. Are you allowed to see other people? How long?

In this case since you have been ghosted for over a week, i think he dumped you.

You’re a free woman

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hunnie_bee_ OP t1_iuetnco wrote

I would have loved to have talked about the terms of the break with him, but he didn’t respond to any of my texts right after he sent his last message.

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luvduvbunny t1_iueu2xg wrote

Yep…. He wanted a “break” so he did it by text, instead of in person.

He dumped you and was too cowardly to do it properly

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Aggressive_Green_783 t1_iufmzjs wrote

Don't, just don't. Your first week and he wants a break? Just nip this in the bud and end this trainwreck before it even starts.

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IndigoTrailsToo t1_iueuqft wrote

If you want to sleep with other people like this, even though he is on break, I think you are just not interested enough in this relationship. It's okay to just call it quits from here.

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hunnie_bee_ OP t1_iuev789 wrote

I am interested in it! He was the nicest man I’ve ever met, and I was so excited for a potential future with him. It really hurt when he didn’t respond at all, and it just didn’t seem like something he would do. I was really invested in him, but he kinda broke my trust with this

ETA, Halloween is also my favorite holiday, and I just don’t want to spend it alone

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IndigoTrailsToo t1_iuevowv wrote

Why don't you leave him a message and say that Halloween is your favorite holiday and that you don't want to be alone. Maybe both of you can hang out on that day. Casual.

Or maybe you decide to not be alone but not sleep with someone else.

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Appropriate_Title135 t1_iufb3yi wrote

No? Is she a dog? She texted him many times. She should stop now. Don’t give her stupid advice’s

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