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Yeah that’s entirely fair. He isn’t poly so he isn’t going to stay with you.

I do understand that but he didnt even attempt to let me explain myself which made the situation worse

Wtf is this nonsense?

What did you expect, "hey i romanically like someone else even though im with you" of course hes gonna dump you, hes not gonna wait arounf for you to leave him or cheat. Move on and find someone else thats poly

He doesn’t need to. There’s nothing else to explain. Your views on relationships no longer line up.

If he knows it's a deal breaker for him then maybe he wasn't emotionally ready to have that conversation with you. It's best for both of you to move on.

I wasnt really expecting anything i knew there was a chance he would break up with me over it

You knew their was a chance and he did just that he left you, now you accept it and move on, why harp on the past sense you cant control that. Focus on the future and do what you must to be happy

If my gf told me she wanted to also be with other ppl I’d leave too.

I just really don't think there's a whole lot else to discuss... I'm sorry, but I think it's best to just let this be as it is... You told him what you wanted and his wants differ from yours and that's totally okay but I think he doesn't need anymore explanation, but hearing more will only hurt him more. He knows you want to be poly and he doesn't so he did the best thing for both of you by saying goodbye. He doesn't need to stay with you and hurt himself by letting you do what you want and he doesn't want to trap you by staying with you and not letting you do what you want. Let it be goodbye and go your separate ways, I'm sure it hurts but it's for the best.

If you want to be friends, give him a few days and space to work through his own emotions, if he has any questions I'm sure he'll ask.