Feeling upset

Submitted by CardiologistDecent76 t3_yioq04 in relationship_advice

Recently married for 3 months ago I just opened my husband phone and found hidden pictures of his ex girlfriend(> 500 pic), some of it involve video of passionate kisses and sexy bikini . I felt upset & i told him that , he said he has forgotten about it and agree to delete it . What bothers me most is that some of the pictures was 5 months ago , he told me they has separated 2 years ago. But unfortunately it wasnt the case. Strange enough i feel that i was wrong checking his phone and request him to delete some of pic from the past . I feel insecure. In trying to reassure me he told me that his ex tried to contact him 2 weeks ago from another number but he blocked her ( which made me feels even worse) I don’t know what to think or what is the wise action to do in this case

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blckdaliahhh t1_iujp4ni wrote

so he lied?

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CardiologistDecent76 OP t1_iujq68m wrote

Yes he lied about the breakup time . Told me when we first met that he broke up with his last girlfriend 2 years ago. But i just found out it was 5 months ago

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Hynosaur t1_iuk0cbx wrote

So. He has been cheating on you while you were :

  • dating
  • got engaged
  • planned the wedding

Dump his sorry ass

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luvduvbunny t1_iujosc5 wrote

So you just got married 3 months ago?

Your husband was with his ex 2 years ago?

So your husband took pictures of him and his ex from 5 months ago?

If this is the case, then he cheated. Why would he be taking these passionate photos with his ex?

Please let me know if i got the timeline right

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CardiologistDecent76 OP t1_iujr6bn wrote

Sorry my english isn’t my first language. Yes we married 3 months ago. Yes he broke up with his last girlfriend 5 months ago( 1 months before we met ) But he told me he broke up with her 2 years ago, i cannt find explanation why he is not honest about the time they break up if its over any way? And i cannt understand why he is keeping her pictures hidden in his phone

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luvduvbunny t1_iujsy42 wrote

Since he lied about the breakup time, what else has he lied about.

It seems like he’s not over his ex. He still has feelings for her.

If you knew that he had an ex-girlfriend 1 month before you met, would you have married him? Also why did you marry him in a very short time frame?

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