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athena2367 OP t1_iuk9ua4 wrote

Reply to comment by Traditional_Fortune6 in Man-hating, controlling friend(s) vs slightly new, confrontational, loud boyfriend by athena2367

Short, sweet, and to the point—I like it. Thank you for the advice/response and for making it so straightforward. I guess the only worry I have is I don’t A: want to just throw away friendships of 3+ years and B: don’t want to be known as the girl who chose a boy over her friends (especially if he doesn’t end up being the one/screws me over).

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Traditional_Fortune6 t1_iukabad wrote

In the grand scheme of life, three year friendships are common. I've had friends who I was sure would be friends forever, and they lasted four years. Also, you wouldn't be choosing him over them. They're shitty friends whether he's involved or not. It's just that right now you're at an impasse, and although he's involved, it's not because of him. It's because they are shitty friends. The breaking point was bound to come along at some point.

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athena2367 OP t1_iukbcur wrote

THANK YOU FOR PUTTING INTO WORDS WHAT IVE BEEN TRYING TO ARTICULATE.

Literally my thoughts exactly. I don’t want everyone to think I’m going to stay with this guy if I end things with my friends. He may not last another month if this happens again (and he knows it).

It’s really just the principle of it all and the fact that the way they treated him (and me, by default), was quite literally embarrassing, disappointing, and tbh, not surprising (which to me is actually the worst part of all, because I am just not surprised).

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