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diagnosedwolf t1_iujev2m wrote

Reply to comment by Capricondor in My wife (F 30) started talking with a therapist and wasn't ready to tell me (M 29). She lied about what she was doing and I dug in. Now she's mad that I didn't trust her but I'm mad she lied to me. by [deleted]

But she didn’t want to talk about it later. She didn’t want to talk about it at all. She wanted “it’s private” to be enough.

You thought “it’s private” meant that she was cheating on you. That’s why she’s hurt.

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Capricondor t1_iujfeq3 wrote

She didn't say it's private. She got defensive and said "just friends". If she had just said it's private I would have let it be because I trust her. But because she got defensive and lied my spidey senses went off.

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