Sattalyte t1_iujbqap wrote on October 31, 2022 at 7:32 PM

Siblings can be very competitive. My own mother is one of 4 daughters, and they all constantly compare the successes of their children's looks/salaries/relationships with each other. It's kind of sad, but that's just life.

It sounds like your mum has that kind of relationship with her sister, and your aunt has been crowing that her own daughter has a BF worth showing off and your mum has ended up feeling jealous. Again, it's pretty sad.

You do you. You don't have to justify your choices for your mothers gratification.

ArrowGantOne t1_iuk1x2g wrote on October 31, 2022 at 10:39 PM

Thank you for typing this out, I hope OP sees it.

But yeah, after reading your comment, it finally makes sense. And I remember my parents doing the same thing once or twice. Now that you've brought it up, I'd be willing to bet her cousins have endured similar / other treatment by their parents to give them something to brag about. She might want to talk to her closest cousin, find out if her aunts / uncles do the same thing. Imagine all the cousins getting together and blowing the lid off of the whole thing.

juliaskig t1_iuk3sbf wrote on October 31, 2022 at 10:54 PM

Mother has never even met bf, and is already judging him as wonderful.

Sattalyte t1_iuk4u8l wrote on October 31, 2022 at 11:02 PM

Proves my point ;)

TigerThicccWhiskey t1_iuk6iox wrote on October 31, 2022 at 11:15 PM

Nah screw that. She doesn't get an out. The mom is crazy. Who says this kind of shit to their daughter? Shouldn't be allowed to have kids.