Submitted by RemoteAnything1265 t3_yim2ky in relationship_advice
my mom sat me down for a "discussion" and told me my female cousin got a new boyfriend who's apparently tall and handsome. she started crying because she said i'm so pretty, educated, have a high paying job, etc, and yet, i don't have a boyfriend that looks like that. she said it's such a "waste" and her chest started to hurt when she saw the picture of the guy, because she's so sad and jealous that i don't date someone who looks like that. she even went on to say that he has such a friendly face, and she can just TELL that he must be so nice, polite, calm, even though she's literally never met him before. she thinks my bf is too unattractive, short, not educated enough for her prized daughter. i told her that i don't know what to do with this information and i'm exhausted. i told her to talk to a therapist because she can't stop unloading all of this shit onto me. she told me "why would i need to see a therapist, when i talk to you about these things i feel better, so you're basically my therapist". i told her she needs to figure out why my life choices and partner affects her so much, she makes me feel as if i have to be ashamed of my loving boyfriend.
edit: thanks everyone for your supportive comments. it makes me feel like im not insane for getting so upset. for context, im asian. this is unfortunately very common in asian families… notorious saving face culture. i am very happy with my boyfriend and moving out with him soon fortunately. 90% of the time, my mom holds her tongue when it comes to him but she’ll slip out these nasty comments time to time.
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