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Lucavious t1_iuh5zrz wrote

He’s cheating. And like all cheaters, he’s going to make you feel like it’s your fault that it happened instead of taking ownership of his mistake.

✔️ Distancing himself seemingly out of nowhere

✔️ Bitching about things he used to like about you

✔️ Not wanting to come home

✔️ A sudden desire for time apart

✔️ Gaslighting you to the fucking moon

This man has a fling at work and he’s too chicken shit to tell you. Do not feel shame here. You can do better than him.

Edit: and I hope you ignore the children of this site who compare your situation to their senior year flings. People don’t change in this way and they certainly don’t try to keep the door open. You are being kept as an insurance policy in case this other woman doesn’t work out.

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berryjuiced t1_iuhca2t wrote

Don't listen to that.

"My bf broke up" - he's cheating. "My bf didn't break up" - he's cheating but wants a cake too. "My bf farted" - he's cheating and his arse has spoken about it.

Seriously....

There is not much you can do besides respecting his decision. It's hard to pinpoint what made you guys grow apart, but that state is often irreversible unless both people have strong desire to change that. Looks like he doesn't for whatever reason.

Go through your emotions, breathe in and out, you'll be OK.

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Lucavious t1_iui0256 wrote

It’s fine if you lack the experience to see the signs dude but actively encouraging burying their head is some malevolent shit. Nice job.

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Temporary-Departure4 t1_iujjrvi wrote

Wow… you are… a sad sad person. I’m sorry someone hurt you that bad. But not everyone is always, how do you say, eating the shit sandwich?

Also calling it before you say anything back “well you’re young and don’t know. Sorry you don’t have experience in the real world’”

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silkymittsbarmexico t1_iuhf4o9 wrote

I’ve done all of these check marks and it had nothing to do with cheating. It was just taking me time to realize that I didn’t like my girlfriend anymore and I had to come to terms with it. Y’all are so predictable here

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BabyBagBitch t1_iuhgivy wrote

Same. I had just caught the ick and didn’t like my boyfriend anymore. It happens, but sometimes you cling on a little too long out of circumstance/obligation. Nothing to do with cheating.

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AnotherPalePianist t1_iujblom wrote

Yup. Usually it’s more about people pleasing, trying to give it more time “because they’re such a good person,” or just the unfortunate fact that people don’t always know what they want. It sucks to be on either side of it, but god….cheating is not the only reason people leave

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WeeklyConversation8 t1_iuhzaf5 wrote

Or it could be that he just doesn't want to be with OP anymore. You're not obligated to stay with someone you're not happy with. He's not happy and ended things.

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Donutduchess t1_iuhkkty wrote

Ignore the downvotes. Reverse the genders and redditors will hop onto she is cheating.

This is reddit home of the pity a rapist thread.

Heck it was deemed cheating when a woman who went to a work party and didn't update her bf every hour despite answering all his calls.

Men get a huge delusional benefit of the doubt here. There have been stories of women finding underwear in their bf/husband's bed and shit ton of excuses come out.

In fact men are so used to this delusional benefit of the doubt they often feel victimized if they're words aren't automatically seen as facts and their intentions aren't instantly deemed 100% good.

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ZealousidealAge7459 t1_iuhpf1k wrote

Are you serious??? Men get the benefit of the doubt??? LOL! It's the complete opposite, and most people will tell you that.

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AnotherPalePianist t1_iujbsai wrote

Yeah….idk what gender has to do with any of this, but people are literally allowed to not be happy in their relationships anymore. And that’s good enough reason to end it

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