AnotherPalePianist t1_iujcxjr wrote on October 31, 2022 at 7:40 PM

Reply to comment by Billowing_Flags in My partner of 5 years wants to move out but not break-up... I feel so defeated. by [deleted]

Yup. I was in a five year relationship and it was slow as mud. I ended it for several reasons (mostly I realized he didn’t even like me but whatever), took some time for me, and my current boyfriend and I already talk about the future. Plans to move in together (next year), moving cities when we’re done with school, a timeline for getting married and trying to start a family……it’s been a few months. It’s flourishing. The difference is astounding when someone is actually prepared to be your partner (and you’re prepared to be theirs) and not just your best buddy who you love a lot and then waste time to “see where things go.”

At most, I’d assume a year is enough to tell. Thoughts?

Billowing_Flags t1_iujnwpk wrote on October 31, 2022 at 8:54 PM

I agree! Maybe you don't have timelines and stuff in a year, but you sure as hell should be in a better position relationship-wise than you were 12 months earlier. They're 60 months in and OP is like, "We just need more TIME." Yeah, NO!