mganga_mzungu OP t1_iuix83q wrote on October 31, 2022 at 5:55 PM

Reply to comment by UsuallyWrite2 in how do I(21f) tell my mum why I am not picking up the phone by mganga_mzungu

I know this sounds exactly like what I should do, it just wouldn't go over very well. Think if it as if I need to speak in work language.

UsuallyWrite2 t1_iuiyetg wrote on October 31, 2022 at 6:03 PM

“Father said I’m not welcome on the group call as I am not interested in having a relationship with brother. I would still like to talk to you directly though.

mganga_mzungu OP t1_iuiz4on wrote on October 31, 2022 at 6:07 PM

She's super picky about what words I use... I just think if I say 'not welcome' she will somehow either use that against me or make it an even bigger problem. Honestly I couldn't care less about being on the call or not

inna_hey t1_iujduzi wrote on October 31, 2022 at 7:46 PM

i'm not sure how we as a bunch of strangers are supposed to help you with your mom's weird hyper-specific word policing

sarilarifari5 t1_iuizzgh wrote on October 31, 2022 at 6:13 PM

Than just don't do the calls and let your father explain it to her.

Bandage-Bob t1_iuj6jeb wrote on October 31, 2022 at 6:57 PM

It sounds like she's miserable to deal with as well so why haven't you just gone LC or NC with her as well?

knittedjedi t1_iuk21gz wrote on October 31, 2022 at 10:40 PM

That's nice. You can still have am adult conversation with her.