My boyfriend (23M) for 7 years and I (22M) got into it over a dinner I had made.

Submitted by EfficientPassenger25 t3_yiomue in relationship_advice

He’s very picky when it comes to certain things like his food made a certain way so whenever I cook I basically have to make it how he likes it or he wouldn’t eat it. Yesterday I made pot roast for dinner and this time I added corn starch and cold water to mix with my broth and it made like a gravy like texture and he was so upset with me! He told me I need to cook s**** the right way , he’s not eating that nasty stuff and he also proceeds to say don’t nobody add gravy to no pot roast I just be doing stuff. My feelings were hurt of course but not because of him not liking it but it’s more of it’s not what you say it’s how you say it but he doesn’t care because his response was you can’t get mad because I don’t want to eat that and then he went into the guest room and shut the door and haven’t talked to me since. I put the food in the house, I pay the bills all by myself and I know I’m not very good if a cook but I try because he’s my boyfriend but I’m starting to feeling he doesn’t appreciate me. I feel like I support him and be there for him but it’s not the same way around. He gets a new job and quit the next day because he’s FTM trans and he thinks people judge him or he don’t like being called the wrong pronouns so he just sits here in the other room. Every time he’s upsets he calls me out my name like b*** , dumba***, slow and other hurtful things especially when he says I’m nagging or i don’t know how to communicate cause I yell when I’m upset but I try to be understanding sometimes, I just can’t take it and I tend to raise my voice. I know my not perfect but he’s bringing me down mentally when he say he loves me but I just don’t know.

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MammothAd1266 t1_iujo9kb wrote

Honestly i'd dump him. He sounds like a lazy self-centred twat

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lifestyleboss t1_iujomiq wrote

Well he definitely doesn’t appreciate you I’ll just go ahead and tell you that right now. He doesn’t pay any bills in the house to even help you and you think he “loves” you? A man that truly values you and loves you will help you pay the bills around the house so you aren’t doing it alone, appreciates the fact you tried your best to cook the food the way he wanted and he doesn’t yell at you if it wasn’t made right, it’s the thought that counts and you didn’t want him to go hungry. He wouldn’t just quit jobs and sit at the house all day living basically off you. You definitely need to put him in check and have a talk to see if y’all can get some understanding because he don’t appreciate you and I’m just being real.

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curly_lox t1_iujp976 wrote

Who eats pot roast without gravy?

Don't cook for him anymore.

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EvilFinch t1_iujrf56 wrote

Please, you must leave him. He uses you. He is abusive to you. Why are you even with him? You are so much more worth.

Stop paying for him or giving him money. Stop lifting a finger for him. He is an adult sitting the whole day on his lazy ass. You need to break up. But don't do it alone. Since he is abusive, you never know how he react. Have a friend with you. And then tell him that he need to pack his shit and needs to leave. I guess the lease is on you?

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mwise003 t1_iujr7k3 wrote

There's a song that when I read a post like yours constantly plays over and over in my head.

Run to the hills, run for your life.......

He has NO respect for you, don't you think you deserve better? I do..

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