Submitted by EfficientPassenger25 t3_yiomue in relationship_advice
He’s very picky when it comes to certain things like his food made a certain way so whenever I cook I basically have to make it how he likes it or he wouldn’t eat it. Yesterday I made pot roast for dinner and this time I added corn starch and cold water to mix with my broth and it made like a gravy like texture and he was so upset with me! He told me I need to cook s**** the right way , he’s not eating that nasty stuff and he also proceeds to say don’t nobody add gravy to no pot roast I just be doing stuff. My feelings were hurt of course but not because of him not liking it but it’s more of it’s not what you say it’s how you say it but he doesn’t care because his response was you can’t get mad because I don’t want to eat that and then he went into the guest room and shut the door and haven’t talked to me since. I put the food in the house, I pay the bills all by myself and I know I’m not very good if a cook but I try because he’s my boyfriend but I’m starting to feeling he doesn’t appreciate me. I feel like I support him and be there for him but it’s not the same way around. He gets a new job and quit the next day because he’s FTM trans and he thinks people judge him or he don’t like being called the wrong pronouns so he just sits here in the other room. Every time he’s upsets he calls me out my name like b*** , dumba***, slow and other hurtful things especially when he says I’m nagging or i don’t know how to communicate cause I yell when I’m upset but I try to be understanding sometimes, I just can’t take it and I tend to raise my voice. I know my not perfect but he’s bringing me down mentally when he say he loves me but I just don’t know.
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