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You can't afford the trip and made the call not to go. There really isn't anything to talk to him about. I know you feel disappointed, but you had to make the decision based on lack of funds. You don't expect them to all cancel the trip because of that, do you?

Also, he should not feel obligated to pay your way. So there is nothing to say about that either.

Wish him off, tell him to have a great time, let him know you will miss him and wish you could be there, too. Spend the time doing some things you'd like to do just for you, visiting other friends, etc.

What kind of boyfriend would go on a romantic holiday without you? Not a good one. It's part of being a couple. Are you sure he's not taking someone else? It doesn't make sense for him to go. The two of you could go somewhere by yourselves to a place you can both afford. Why not offer that as an option and see what he says.

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It sort of sounds like he's rubbing it in. Fantasizing with you about trips while planning a great one you can't go on? Asking you where you would go if money was no object? He kinda sounds like a jerk that's gonna find some strange while he's away on a two and a half week luxury romantic get-a-way without his gf.

I think it is worth communicating your feelings to him and letting him know you’re disappointed that you can’t go too. You probably should also tell him that you feel conflicted about him going on a romantic trip without you after he spent so much time discussing travel with you. He sounds a little clueless imo

I would never expect my partner to miss a trip just because I couldn't afford it. What kind of partner does that? Not a good one. Just because it's a romantic vacation for the married couples, doesn't mean it has to be for everyone else. Also, either this girl doesn't know how old she is or she's aging backward because in her last post, she was 28.

You've been together for a fairly long time. I would 100% be very upset not to go on a romantic holiday with my partner... I can't imagine what he's gonna do on that trip by himself. TBH I wouldnt want to be with someone who would do this at this stage in the relationship. If I were in his shoes I'd go on, say, a 3 star hotel trip for two rather than a luxurious trip for one.

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Well... has it been billed as a romantic getaway- or just a trip that a lot of rich people are taking together who all happen to be married and are all mutually friends? Personally I wouldn't call being on holiday with a partner's friends especially romantic, going away as a couple alone certainly would be.

I think maybe you need to shift your perspective on this. If they're all well off, what looks like luxury (and ergo romantic) for you may be standard for them! Also, looking at your partner's age it might just be the fact that he (and his friends) are older and settled into committed relationships make the standard "mates holiday" look a lot different to the ones you'd go on in your early 20s.

Ignore the standard comments about cheating- I don't think any man is dumb enough to take the other woman on a group holiday.

That's pretty wow. He should either treat you or plan a different trip for just the two of you. If he were as into you as he should be for things to continue he should be worried that he needs to take you to keep you as gf.

Men don't always understand their role is to give resources whereas the woman's role is to put those resources to use for the common purpose.

I'm sorry, men's role is to give resources?

Can you explain that more?

I completely agree with this. If I were her partner, I would try to compromise so that she could join, as well, rather than plan to leave her behind altogether.

You should have talked to him already. You coming up with your story that you won't be going due to expense may have seemed to everyone like you just not wanting to go, which is obviously not the case. You hoping he would intuit your unspoken wish and give you the trip as a birthday gift is just fairytale thinking.

It's not too late, you could tell him you really wish you were going and ask if he could subsidize you. I honestly don't know why you haven't done it already.

So basically everyone would expect their partner to not go, just because you can't? That's ridiculous. Romantic vacation for the couples doesn't mean it has to be for other people. I would never make them feel guilty or bad for going, because I'm not a child and I'm not insecure in my relationship. Would I be bummed to miss out on a trip when I love to travel? Of course. Would I go on Reddit so 9/10 comments can tell me "well your partner must be cheating or wants to hook up with strangers" probably not. Maybe this is Karma for getting a couple kicked out of their apartment because you just assumed their dog was evil (breed discrimination by the way, I'm a Rottie Mom and that makes me sick) because he gasp liked to run down the hallway!

He's being sarcastic, if I base it on his past comments I've seen while I'm scrolling the sub.