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Burner0182 OP t1_iuj9vga wrote

Reply to comment by oiler1996 in Overthinking advice about parter partying by Burner0182

I guess the concern is something happening that leads to getting hurt since that’s something that’s happened to me in previous relationships. She will usually go out with some of her girl friends or to random house parties but hasn’t always been very inviting of having me there which is something we’ve had arguments about and she’s agreed to work on. And I do trust her I guess I just have that thought in the back of my mind that what if something happens and also questioning how she acts when she’s drinking and I’m not there

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oiler1996 t1_iujat4k wrote

Had she done better with inviting you out or has it stayed the same? Your concerns are valid you wont know how she behaves when your not there, you can only take her word that she is acting respectfully towards your relationship and you, unfortuatly cheating happens but its gonna happen whether you are with her or not, if she wants to cheat she will, i know it sucks not having control over that aspect of the relationship and its scary as fuck, i have the same worries at times, but remind yourself she choose you and that she wants to be with you. Focus on what you can actually control which are your thoughts and how you act and hope she has the same respect for the relationship as you.

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Burner0182 OP t1_iujb3t6 wrote

You’re probably the most helpful person here thank you. It’s gotten a little better in terms of inviting but wish it would happen more but there also hasn’t been too many opportunities for her to invite me since we talked

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oiler1996 t1_iujbpwv wrote

Make sure when you do get invited out you express how much it means that she took your concern to heart and is trying and that you apprechiate her for doing so, that simple compliment to her will mean alot and she will feel more inclined to continue to invite you. Good luck man

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