Submitted by Intrepid_Fee_4604 t3_yiqc3r in relationship_advice
Hi everyone,
So I (M27) have been dating this girl (F26) for 4 months but she told me a couple of weeks ago that she still talks to her ex, who she dated for 7 years, almost everyday. The guy she dated before me physically abused her, mentally tormented her, cheated on her multiple times, and gave her an STI. Obviously, I am uncomfortable with her talking to such a destructive person however she still views him as her "best friend" and told me that he will always be in her life.
To make the situation worse, she is planning to visit her EX and his family in another country for TWO WEEKS. I feel really uncomfortable with her talking to him and even more uneasy that she is going to another country to see him. Whenever I talk to her about it and ask her to set strong boundaries with him, she turns it around and says that I will always be stuck on the fact that she is talking to her EX and that I should trust her because she hasn't given me any reason to not trust her. I was just hoping if anyone had any perspectives or advice they can share because.
TL;DR: Current girlfriend is talking to her abusive EX and going to see him in another country for two weeks. Whenever I ask her to set strong boundaries with him, she gaslights me and tells me that I do not trust her enough.
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