Well, whatever you decide, understand that your hubby needs to tell his mom that HE's marrying you, not his mom, and if she continues on the course she's taken, she'll never get to hold the grandchildren that you birth. Now, I understand the importance of family in Latin America, and that what "the family" thinks is to be taken seriously, but you and he have, for over eight years allowed "family thinking" to keep you apart, only to continually bump into each other. Perhaps that fact alone should be an indication to his mom that God has made His desires known. If she is unsure, then SHE should consult a priest, and possibly be told the same thing I mentioned.

However it turns out, I wish you and your fiance' well.