Submitted by larsdan2 t3_yishk1 in relationship_advice
My partner and I had a really awesome first year of our relationship. 6 months ago, we moved from where we were to another town to help her mother with her business. The two of them ended up having a very dramatic fallout and it really impacted my partners mental health, so we left to move to another town.
I had hard time finding work, so she supported us for a good 3 months. I found myself in a spiral of depression, and she was dealing with her own. We started fighting a lot. It was never over anything big but they always escalated. We ended up saying things to eachother that can't be unsaid. We both threatened to leave. I was so busy wallowing in my own sorrow and pity that I didn't realize she was also in hers. I was definitely never as appreciative of her as I should have been. I started flaking out on plans we had together. I would be snippy and rude with her when she would talk. We eventually started talking less and less.
A month ago we moved back home and into our old apartment. I thought being back home, being financially stable, and having a stable home life would fix things. I was wrong.
Last night we got into an argument and she said she doesn't want to be together. Told me me she doesn't love me like she used to and that she doesn't see a future for us. She hasn't gotten to the point of packing her things and leaving yet, but she seems pretty set.
I want to respect her decisions, and I want her to find her happiness, but I can't bare the idea of a life without her in it. Is there any salvaging I can do? How can I help us get over our past issues and get back to being in love? How can I show her I love and appreciate her still, and I want nothing more than to share my life with her? What things can I do to improve myself so I can be the partner she deserves?
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