Viewing a single comment thread. View all comments

throwawayacct199230 OP t1_iuk6kof wrote

Reply to comment by Traditional_Fortune6 in How can I (27F) move forward? by throwawayacct199230

Thank you for your response! I understand that he has commitment issues, but it doesn't make sense how he can just go back on the dating app within a week and a half of us ending and start dating other people. Do people with commitment issues not feel relationship deeply? Do they typically keep things at a superficial level? When we dated it never felt superficial since he brought me around his family and took me on a trip to visit another family member.

I am not sure if I can ask this question or not, but is continuing to stay platonic friends with him a bad idea since I do have strong feeling for him? I think therapy is going to help him a lot and want to show that I am there for him and not going away if times get hard.

1

Traditional_Fortune6 t1_iuk8xbi wrote

There's no telling how deeply he feels for you or why he's on the app. There's no point speculating because you'll drive yourself crazy.

If you really want to be his friend, you have to be prepared to watch him date other people. Are you up for that?

1

throwawayacct199230 OP t1_iuk9olq wrote

It is going to be really difficult to watch him date other people, but I am also not ready to loose him. I think I put this guy on a high pedestal and I can't seem to let him come down from it.

I guess I just have to give it a try and see how it is being friends with him. If it is too painful then I'll have to cut it off for my own mental well-being.

1

Traditional_Fortune6 t1_iukafva wrote

Be sure to watch yourself. Really know when to cut it off.

1

throwawayacct199230 OP t1_iukazbh wrote

I usually try to see the good in people, and I think I will struggling cutting it off with him. But I think therapy will help me. Thank you so much!

1