I get why she is upset but it's a 50/50 problem. You two have real compatibility issues and at this point you seem to both be wasting eachother's time. She has zero respect for your boundaries and has made it clear how she wants to live. You have not really addressed that at all and just put a giant stop sign on all progress in the relationship. This seems to just be a true waste for everyone.

For the record I think she is the weird one. In fact super weird, but that's her right.